How to get help for an elderly parent in Nigeria when you live abroad

The starting point

Nigeria had around 8 million people over 60 in 2019, heading for 25 million by 2050. Only about 4% of older people have a pension, the National Policy on Ageing agreed in 2021 has not been implemented, and Lagos State runs a single government old people's home, at Yaba. Care for an ageing parent is a family matter by default, and for families abroad that means arranging it from a distance.

The options, with what they cost in Lagos

• A relative or neighbour. Free or informal, and the most common arrangement. Works until the person doing it is exhausted, moves, or misses something a professional would catch.
• A live-in or daily caregiver from an agency: roughly N119,000 to N159,000 a month in 2026. Companionship, meals, mobility, reminders. Not a nurse.
• A registered nurse from an agency: roughly N219,000 to N259,000 a month; nurse plus caregiver packages from around N329,000. Suits someone with a condition that needs clinical watching.
• A care home. Lagos has a small number of private homes; the one with published prices charges N79,000 to N249,000 a month. Most quote on request. Widely resisted by parents and families alike.
• Billed monthly, the Kinship Plan is £20 a month for the Kinship team, Kemi on WhatsApp and a shared family record. Add 1, 2 or 4 visits per month, with a named Kinkeeper, for monthly totals of £60, £95 or £160. Nurse visits are one type, lasting up to three unhurried hours, with a report checked by the Kinkeeper.

Choosing between them

• Someone independent, living alone, whose family worries: regular visits and a Kinkeeper who follows up if something is wrong.
• Someone managing a condition such as hypertension or diabetes: medicines and health checks during visits, with reports reviewed by their Kinkeeper. Treatment remains with their clinician.
• Someone who needs help every day with washing, meals or moving: a caregiver or live-in carer, with visits from a nurse alongside to keep a qualified eye on it.
• Someone who can no longer be safely at home: a care home, chosen in person by a family member, with the visits continuing there.

Whatever you choose

• Put one person's name on it. The failure mode of care from abroad is everyone assuming someone else called.
• Agree how you will hear about it: a written update after each visit, not a phone call that says fine.
• Sort the hospital question before it is urgent: which one, is it in the network, who takes them.
• Have the conversation with your parent before the decision is forced on them.

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